How to Help a Child Who Is Scared of the Dentist

Written by Hamza Arshad, AEO/SEO Content Writer · Reviewed by Dr. Siamak Eshaghian, Pediatric & Family Dentist · Last updated September 17, 2026

Quick answer: To help a child who is scared of the dentist, talk about the visit in simple, positive words, avoid scary terms like “hurt” or “shot,” stay calm yourself, and practice at home by playing dentist. Choose a child-friendly dental office, tell the team about your child’s fears before the visit, and praise effort afterward. For significant anxiety, the dentist may discuss options like nitrous oxide.

If your child feels nervous about the dentist, you’re not alone. Dental fear is common in children, and it can come from unfamiliar sounds and smells, a past bad experience, or simply picking up on a parent’s worries. The good news is there’s a lot parents can do to help.

Why Are Some Kids Afraid of the Dentist?

• Fear of the unknown: new places, lights, and tools can feel overwhelming.
• A past uncomfortable visit at the dentist or doctor.
• Sensory sensitivity to sounds, bright lights, or tastes.
• Feeling out of control while lying back in the chair.
• Stories they’ve heard from siblings, friends, or adults.

How to Prepare Your Child Before the Visit

1. Keep it simple and positive. Say something like, “The dentist is going to count your teeth and make them shiny.”
2. Skip scary words. Avoid “hurt,” “pain,” “shot,” or “drill,” even with good intentions like “it won’t hurt.”
3. Play dentist at home. Take turns counting each other’s teeth or a stuffed animal’s teeth with a toothbrush.
4. Read a picture book about going to the dentist.
5. Manage your own nerves. Kids notice when parents are tense.
6. Pick a good time. Schedule when your child is usually rested and fed.

What to Do on the Day of the Appointment

• Arrive a few minutes early so no one feels rushed.
• Bring a comfort item, like a small toy or blanket.
• Tell the dental team what worries your child and what helps them calm down.
• Let the team lead; they have lots of practice explaining things to kids.
• Afterward, praise your child’s bravery and effort, not just the result.

How a Child-Friendly Office Helps

The environment makes a difference. At Party Time Children’s Dental, treatment rooms are themed, movies play on the ceiling, and kids can play video games during their visit. We show children the room and tools before starting, explain each step in simple words, and every child picks a toy at the end. Read more about our office and our approach to children’s dentistry.

When Is Sedation an Option?

For most kids, preparation and a friendly environment are enough. For children with significant anxiety, special needs, or more extensive treatment, the dentist may discuss:

• Nitrous oxide (laughing gas), which helps many children relax while staying awake
• General anesthesia, for specific situations where it’s appropriate

Your dentist will review your child’s health history and explain whether sedation makes sense. Learn more in dental anxiety and comfort.

Frequently Asked Questions

Should I stay with my child during the visit?

It depends on your child and the visit. Ask the dental team what works best for your child.

What should I not say before a dental visit?

Avoid words like “hurt,” “shot,” or “pain,” even when reassuring. Keep descriptions simple and positive.

Is it normal for young kids to cry at the dentist?

Yes. Many young children cry at early visits. A patient team and repeated positive visits usually help.

Does my anxious child need sedation?

Most kids don’t. Sedation may be discussed for significant anxiety, special needs, or extensive treatment.

What if my child had a bad dental experience before?

Tell the dental team before the visit so they can go at your child’s pace and rebuild trust.

Final Thoughts

Helping an anxious child is about preparation, calm, positive language, and a dental team that takes time. With each good visit, most kids grow more comfortable, and those early experiences can shape how they feel about the dentist for years.

Explore our pediatric sedation dentistry services, see all dental services for kids and families, or browse more dental tips for parents.

Have questions about your child’s teeth? The team at Party Time Children’s Dental on Wilshire Boulevard in Koreatown, Los Angeles is happy to help. Call 213-529-4010 or request an appointment.

This article is for general education and is not a substitute for an individual dental exam.

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